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Author: Ted Roberts

Value in letter-writing

I used to be a father. I still am, and now I’m a grandfather, too. But it’s a load I can handle because the job description is just about identical. It calls for inspiration – of young minds and young hearts, especially of grandkids who live farther away and, therefore, consider themselves relatively safe from my constant inspirational messages.

Despite TV, video games, tablets and smartphones, and an environment humming with electronic messages, we Jews honor and cherish the printed word. We still are the People of the Book. Give us a pencil (or a pen) and a piece of paper, and we’ll find something to say.

So, I write a lot of letters to my grandkids. For still less than 50 cents – it goes up most years (no competition will do that) – you’re able to send a large number of words written on several pieces of paper. And, for a few more cents, a wise grandfather, besides advice and family gossip, can include a candy bar, a stick of gum, a newspaper clipping or a baseball card to lure the young mind into the civilized joy of correspondence. What teacher ever taught successfully without incentives? It’s a trick I learned years ago from the Cracker Jack people. They marketed candy with cheap, fragile toys. I market family pride.

I use wiles of all kinds to encourage my younger kin to rip open their envelopes with frantic enthusiasm. “Wonder what he sent this time? Maybe, if I write back today, he’ll send me another Hershey bar.”

Yes, Hershey bars are great. Nice and flat for mailing, but they have their disadvantages in July, unless you live in Nome and your granddaughter hangs out with her kids in Anchorage.

Kids love letters with or without sweet bonuses. They love their name in big, bold letters on the envelope. They love the ritual of sorting through the mail and throwing the discards on the floor before finding their letter.

And, like I say, I rarely write without including something that is either amusing, edible or ethically fortifying. My favorites are clippings from my local newspaper (human interest stories, we used to call them). So educational! They encourage kids to read and observe the world outside of home and school. If you pick your stories with care, you can package amusement and even morality in your envelopes. For example, I just mailed off to eight grandkids the story of a 65-year-old lady who wrote a confession to her high school principal – she cheated in a high school writing course 47 years ago!

My small audience loved it and marveled at her delayed, but full, confession. They had many questions: “Did she have to take the class over? Did she get a punishment? Did they send her a new report card? I assured them she was not punished and maybe – because of her honesty – they renamed the auditorium in her honor.

But my kids usually award the family Pulitzer Prize to the vignettes I call “Pet Saves Family”: the collie who pulled Jamie out of the river, the cocker spaniel who barked and alerted the family to their smoldering home and, of course, the whole category of dog-finds-missing-child stories. We humans, even after we’ve lost the glow of childhood, still have a soft spot for animal rescue stories. It goes back in history to the gabbling geese who saved Rome. A story probably told in a grandfather’s letter of 300 BCE.

We don’t always need burning homes and swollen rivers. Kids of the right age (say over 3 and under 10) love any animal story. Naturally. They love animals. There’s a kinship there of smallness, innocence, helplessness that we don’t relate to as much when we become older and taller, and more cynical.

Just this month, I mailed out a tearjerker that couldn’t fail to warm the juvenile heart. A two-column report of a three-legged dog – a mutt who had lost a race with a truck and forfeited one of his four limbs – who found a lost child. The sheriff and an army of searchers failed, noted the article, but the dog, with only 75% of its limbs, found the missing child.

The returns from my young readers have been overwhelmingly enthusiastic about this theme. “More!” they cry. They want more. But that’s not so easy. I’m at the mercy of the newspaper industry, which is attracted to war, corruption, crime and disease, rather than the uplifting genre of “pet finds child” or other positive news.

Besides the inspirational value, there’s a selfish payoff to my letter writing campaigns: I like the return mail. And, maybe decades from now, when I’m old and my pen trembles on the paper and my poor old grinders are loose and wobbly, my mail will be full of attentive notes sweetened with easy-to-eat Hershey bars. Bread on the waters, you know.

Ted Roberts is a freelance writer and humorist living in Huntsville, Ala.

Posted on June 17, 2016June 16, 2016Author Ted RobertsCategories Op-EdTags Father’s Day, grandchildren, letter-writing
This week’s cartoon … June 17/16

This week’s cartoon … June 17/16

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Format ImagePosted on June 17, 2016June 16, 2016Author Jacob SamuelCategories The Daily SnoozeTags experiment, science, sex, thedailysnooze.com
אליפות העולם בלקרוס

אליפות העולם בלקרוס

נבחרת הנוער של ישראל בלקרוס. (צילום: אתר האליפות)

נבחרת הנוער של ישראל בלקרוס תשתתף באליפות העולם שתיערך בקוקוויטלם ביולי

נבחרת הנוער של ישראל בלקרוס (לגילאי 19 מינוס) שכמעט אף אחד לא ידוע על קיומה, תשתתף באליפות העולם שתיערך בעיר קוקוויטלם, בין השבעה לשישה עשר בחודש יולי הקרוב. המשחקים יתקיימו ‘בקוקוויטלם טאון סנטר פארק’ שכולל ארבעה מתקנים עם דשא סיננטי ושני מתקנים עם דשא טבעי. המשחקים המרכזים יערכו בפארק באצטדיון ‘פרסי פרי’ שמכיל כארבעת אלפים מקומות ישיבה.

משחקי אליפות העולם לנבחרות נוער בלקרוס מתקיימים מאז שנת 1988. קנדה כבר אירחה (בקוקוויטלאם) את האליפות של שנת 2008. האליפות האחרונה התקיימה ב-2012 ובה ארצות הברית ניצחה בגמר את קנדה. האמריקניים אגב זכו בכל האליפויות של לקרוס לצעירים עד היום.

ארבעה עשר נבחרות תשתתפנה באליפות הקרובה: המארחת קנדה, ארצות הברית, אוסטרליה, אירלנד, מקסיקו, אנגליה, גרמניה, ישראל, הונג קונג, טיוואן, דרום קוריאה, סקוטלנד, סין ואירקווי נשיונלס (שמורכבת משחקנים צפון אמריקניים ממוצא אינדיאני).

המשחק הראשון של האליפות יערך בין המארחים הקנדיים מול הנבחרת החזקה של ארצות הברית, שכרגיל מועמדת לזכות באליפות, בשבעה ביולי. נבחרת ישראל תקיים את משחקה הראשון בשלבים המוקדמים של האליפות מול נבחרת הונג קונג, בשמונה ביולי (בשעה עשר בבוקר). המשחק השני של ישראל מול נבחרת טיוואן יערך בעשרה ביולי (גם כן בעשר בבוקר). המשחק השלישי של ישראל מול נבחרת גרמניה יערך באחד עשר ביולי (גם כן בעשר בבוקר). המשחק הרביעי של ישראל מול נבחרת מקסיקו יערך בשניים עשר ביולי (גם כן בעשר בבוקר). לאחר מכן יתקיימו משחקי רבע הגמר, חצי הגמר והגמר – שיערך ב-16 ביולי בשעה ארבע אחר הצהריים.

דיוויד בלאט ינסה לעזור לנבחרת קנדה בכדורסל להגיע לאולימפיאדת ריו דה ז‘ניירו

המאמן האמריקני-ישראלי, דיוויד בלאט, מונה בימים אלה ליועץ מיוחד של נבחרת הכדורסל של קנדה לגברים. בלאט צפוי לעזור לנבחרת הקנדית בהיערכות לקראת הטורניר הקדם אולימפי שיערך בין במנילה בירת הפליפינים, בין החמישה לעשרה ביולי. בלאט אמור להגיע לקנדה בעוד כשבועיים. הנבחרת הקנדית נכנסה למחנה אימונים מרוכז בן שישה ימים החל בסוף השבוע האחרון, בהיכל ‘אייר קנדה’ בטורונטו. לאחר מכן ב-17 בחודש הנבחרת תטוס לאיטליה להשתתף בטורניר של משחקי אימון בטורניר עם שלוש נבחרות: סין, קרואטיה ופורטו ריקו.

הנבחרת הקנדית מקווה לזכות באחד משלושת המקומות בבית א’ בטורניר, שיאפשר לה להשתתף באולפיאדת ריו דה ז’ניירו שתתקיים במהלך חודש אוגוסט. נבחרת קנדה תתמודד מול הנבחרות של סנגל וטורקיה. בקאדר של הנבחרת הקנדית בראשות המאמן הראשי, ג’י טריאנו, והמנהל הכללי, סטיב נאש, שניים עשר שחקנים: תשעה ממחוז אונטריו ושלושה ממחוז בריטיש קולומביה. נבחרת קנדה בכדורסל נחשבת לנבחרת מהדרג הבינוני בעולם ומדורגת במקום העשרים ושישה בעולם. לנבחרת אין הישגים של ממש בכל שנות פעילותה.

בלאט (57) כמאמן וקודם כן כשחקן עטור הישגים בינלאומיים, הוחתם לאחרונה לאמן את קבוצת דרושאפקה מהליגה הטורקית. תקציבה של הקבוצה הטורקית לעונה החדשה נחשב לגבוה במיוחד ועומד על כשלושים מיליון יורו. עם תקציב כזה ובלאט, ראשי הקבוצה מצפים שהמועדון יזכה בכל התארים בליגה הטורקית ובמפעלים האירופאיים השונים.

בלאט אימן עד לאחרונה את קליבנלנד קאבלירס מהאן.בי.איי. קודם לכן אימן בין היתר את: מכבי ת”א, נבחרת רוסיה, אריס סלוניקי, דינמו מוסקבה, אפס פילזן, בנטון טרוויזו, דינמו סנקט פטרסבורג, הפועל גליל עליון ומכבי נתניה. כשחקן הוא שיחק בין היתר: במכבי חדרה, עירוני נהריה, הפועל ירושלים, הפועל גליל עליון, אליצור נתניה, אטלנטה פרו-אם ומכבי חיפה.

Format ImagePosted on June 15, 2016July 2, 2016Author Roni RachmaniCategories עניין בחדשותTags basketball, David Blatt, Israel, lacrosse, NBA, Olympics, אולימפיאדת, בלקרוס, דיוויד בלאט, האן.בי.איי, ישראל, כדורסל
Our national movie history

Our national movie history

Making Movie History panelists during DOXA Industry Day at the SFU Goldcorp Centre for the Arts on May 7, left to right: Michelle van Beusekom, head of the National Film Board of Canada’s English-language production branch, and filmmakers Mort Ransen, Bonnie Sherr Klein and Anne Wheeler. Panel moderator was Marsha Lederman of the Globe and Mail. (photo by Fortune Hill Photography courtesy of NFB)

When it comes to their own history, Canadians haven’t had a great track record for recording their success stories. So, when Michelle van Beusekom had an opportunity to produce Making Movie History: A Portrait in 61 Parts, an anecdotal history of the National Film Board of Canada, she was thrilled to jump on board. Told through portraits of legendary artists and filmmakers who have worked at the NFB since its establishment in 1939, the free iPad app was released last month at the DOXA Film Festival in Vancouver.

Present at the launch were B.C.-based filmmakers Mort Ransen, Bonnie Sherr Klein and Anne Wheeler, who participated on a May 7 panel with van Beusekom, who is head of the NFB’s English-language production branch. The panel was moderated by Marsha Lederman of the Globe and Mail.

It took five years to make Making Movie History, which consists of 30 profiles in French and 30 in English, and van Beusekom is hoping movie lovers will watch it.

“It delivers a fascinating look at the origins of cinema in Canada and insight into the stories of early founders of cinema craft in this country,” she told the Independent.

The portraits are of individuals who participated in the NFB from the 1940s through the 1980s, with a special focus on the earlier years, when the NFB was founded as a government-funded but independent organization with a vision to primarily create documentaries in the public interest. “It created this space where talented people could practise their art, develop a filmmaking tradition in this country and use this art form in the public interest,” she explained.

Over the course of working on the app, van Beusekom gained a keen appreciation of the role of women at the NFB from early on.

“As young men went overseas to fight in World War Two, it created opportunities for women in secretarial roles, cinematography, camera, editing and directing, and many were recruited to the NFB,” she said. “When people talk about women’s cinema in Canada, they talk about Studio D, which started in 1974. Until now, the 1940s generation of pioneers of women in Canadian cinema has almost been forgotten. I learned about Gudrun Parker, Evelyn Spice Cherry, Jane Marsh Beveridge and Laura Boulton, which was huge for me. These were names we didn’t know much about and it changed our perception of women’s roles in Canadian cinema.”

The intention of the app is not to be a comprehensive overview, but to provide a portrait that ideally captures the spirit of the individuals profiled and the spirit they brought to the organization. One of those individuals is Klein, who came to Canada with her spouse as a conscientious objector and worked at the NFB. One of her projects was Challenge for Change, where she used film to address social problems such as chronic poverty. Klein was also a foundational figure at Studio D, which operated from 1974 through 1996.

She recalls the NFB as “a Mecca for documentary films, the only place in the world with a government-funded but independent filmmaking agency” in 1975, when she became involved. “We were using films to give people a voice, people who hadn’t spoken for themselves before on screen,” she told the Independent.

Newly graduated from Stanford University at the time, Klein remembers that, back then, the only documentaries around were those made by National Geographic. At Studio D, Klein helped make films by, about and for women, training and nurturing filmmakers, including camera and sound women in this country for the first time.

Things have changed since then for women in the industry, but not that much, she said. “Now, it’s superficially better. There are a lot more women in the film world and graduating from film schools and a lot more diversity among those women. But, are women really getting a chance to tell their own stories, as opposed to just being in the workforce and working on the same old stories?”

Klein noted that nine out of 10 of the last Telefilm Canada (government-funded) films were directed by men. “Women will tell you there’s still a glass ceiling,” she said. “They can only make films up to a certain budget, and they’re not making series, so it’s not great. But the NFB just made a historic commitment for gender equity across the board in all its projects. That commitment sets the bar and challenges other agencies who have lots of money, to do the same.”

According to the Women in View On Screen Report (October 2015), of the 2013-14 fiscal year’s feature-length films by Telefilm Canada, women represented 17% of directors, 22% of writers and 12% of cinematographers credited; in the under $1 million category of film investment, women directors constituted 21%; in the over $1 million category of film investment, women directors constituted four percent. Of the English-language drama TV series between 2012 and 2013, 17 of the 29 series did not have a single woman director on any of their 151 episodes, and not one of the 293 episodes employed a female cinematographer.

The Making Movie History app is available from the iTunes Canada app store, as well as at nfb.ca/makingmoviehistory.

Lauren Kramer, an award-winning writer and editor, lives in Richmond. To read her work online, visit laurenkramer.net.

Format ImagePosted on June 10, 2016June 8, 2016Author Lauren KramerCategories TV & FilmTags DOXA, NFB, women in film
Interfaith volunteering

Interfaith volunteering

Among her volunteer work, Heather Fenyes started Think Good, Do Good with her cousin. (photo from Heather Fenyes)

Heather Fenyes is a full-time volunteer. She is actively involved in Saskatoon’s Jewish community, as well as with a number of organizations on the national Jewish scene. In 2011, she and her then nearly retired cousin, Jan Gitlin, started the organization Think Good, Do Good to create opportunities for people to engage in acts to improve their community.

A teacher by education, Fenyes has spent many years volunteering at the local Hebrew school, at Agudas Israel Synagogue. “We’re a pretty small community and we punch way above our weight class,” she told the Independent.

“Even when I do things with respect to the Jewish community, while Think Good, Do Good is absolutely non-political, there is spill-over in both directions,” she continued. “Because things I care about aren’t compartmentalized, so the kinds of philosophies we work with, with respect to coexistence, apply to what I want for Israel and what I want in Think Good, Do Good, and in my own community.”

As Fenyes’ kids were growing older, she recognized they were probably going to leave Saskatoon once they finished high school. Unless she created something more tangible to keep herself busy, it would be a difficult time.

“My Judaism tells me that we’re not bound by thoughts, but compelled toward to action,” she said. “We have to do good things. I’ve always wanted to work with that philosophy. I’ve always been a passionate believer in social justice and collective responsibility and, frankly, good deeds.”

Fenyes decided a good place to begin was to pay a visit to Judge David Arnot, head of the Saskatchewan Human Rights Commission, explaining to him that she wanted to find a way to work with him as a volunteer.

That initial meeting has resulted in some annual activities that incorporate Muslim-Jewish outreach, Holocaust education and school events that often revolve around Raoul Wallenberg and the concept of “the power of one.”

“We have an annual Holocaust memorial event in which we reach out to 2,000 students over a period of time,” said Fenyes. “I’m married to a refugee whose family escaped Budapest in 1956 during the revolution, after having survived the Holocaust.”

Fenyes has been spending a lot of time in classrooms, leading various lessons on citizenship, reminding students that, with all of our rights come just as many, if not more, responsibilities.

“I do a lot of conversations in classrooms about the things we take for granted and the things we are responsible for,” she said. “Part of this is just for the lesson itself, and a part of it is with the hope that teachers get this new curriculum, for K to 12 classes, in the very near future.”

For the past three years, on March 21, which is International Day for the Elimination of Racial Discrimination, Gitlin and Fenyes have chosen 250 elementary students who they work with on citizenship and take them to the university campus – with their Think Good, Do Good buttons on – to speak with students in the halls. “They approach university students and ask if they have done something good today,” said Fenyes. “I learn infinitely more from these K to 12 students than I teach them.”

While teaching one of the classes, Fenyes met a young student who said he was from Gaza. Fenyes suggested they talk about hummus. “I have a lot of friends from the Middle East and we have an ongoing discussion about who makes the best hummus,” she said.

“This young man was enthralled and we had this adorable, non-substantial discussion about hummus … and the teacher was standing looking anxious in the corner…. She said to me about a week later, ‘You cannot believe what happened Heather. Not long before you’d been in the classroom, this young man had been telling me about his family’s discomfort with Jewish people and his strong negative feelings towards Israel. When you left the classroom, he had a change.’ She said if she hadn’t seen it herself, she wouldn’t have believed it.

“He approached the teacher and shared how moved he was by having met me and asked to write a paper … and, it was on coexistence or getting to know our neighbors … something completely opposite to the things he’d been saying before.

“You know how we say, ‘To save one life’? I’m not saying that at all, but, if I changed one young man’s way of thinking, that’s a world.”

Fenyes is very aware of the immigration statistics in Saskatchewan and the challenges they pose. “If we don’t create some infrastructure and have conversations like you and I are having right now, and set up educational opportunities, we are going to be another failed example,” she said. “It’s not just that we need to do it because it’s the right thing to do. We need to do it because, otherwise, we’re going to live in a different kind of community.”

This understanding really hit home when Fenyes’ son received a death threat while studying at Western University. Fenyes did not need that wake up call, but it did remind her of why she was in classrooms and making connections with people of all faiths.

Fenyes said they have learned from experience that, if the Jewish community alone puts on events such as the annual Raoul Wallenberg program – which this year took place on Feb. 5 – they do not have the same impact. Therefore, they have given the Catholic and public schools the mandate to organize the event. This year’s program featured a young man who was born in Congo and lived in Kenya before immigrating to Saskatoon as a refugee; he just graduated from high school last year.

“In a city where we have two separate systems, the Catholic and the public school systems work together,” said Fenyes. “The superintendents from each have been meeting, which is a great image and reality, to plan this event. One year, it’s in a Catholic high school. The next year, it’s in a public one.”

On another front, Fenyes is looking forward to finding ways to work with the Centre for Israel and Jewish Affairs.

“I think that what we are doing in Saskatoon as a city and community is really impressive,” she said. “I hope we can infect others with some great kind of ailment – Think Good, Do Good. My kids tease me that I live my life with rose-colored glasses. They might mean it as an insult, but I take it as a compliment.”

Rebeca Kuropatwa is a Winnipeg freelance writer.

Format ImagePosted on June 10, 2016June 8, 2016Author Rebeca KuropatwaCategories NationalTags Fenyes, interfaith, Saskatoon, tikkun olam, volunteerism
Two degrees of separation

Two degrees of separation

An old audio reel that writer Shula Klinger found in a suitcase of her late father’s mementoes features a revealing interview with Viennese author Edith de Born. (photo by Shula Klinger)

When my father died in 2014, I was given an old suitcase containing his mementoes. There were photos, much of his early writing and an audio reel in a box. All it said on the box was, “Interview with Edith de Born.” I had never seen this tape before and had no idea who de Born was. I also didn’t know why my father would have had the reel because, to the best of my knowledge, he had never worked in radio.

A quick Google search told me that de Born was a novelist, born in Vienna when it was still part of the Austro-Hungarian Empire. During the Second World War, she and her banker husband both worked for the Resistance. An obituary of another writer on theguardian.com mentions her as a “now-forgotten Austro-Hungarian novelist,” a gauntlet of a phrase if ever I read one. The next website I visited was a bookseller with secondhand copies of de Born’s books. The Price of Three Cézannes and The House in Vienna arrived a few weeks later.

Like de Born, my father’s family lived in Vienna in the early 20th century, in the final days of the Habsburg Empire. But what was behind my father’s desire to interview her? I took the reel to a digital studio and had the material transferred to a CD, hoping to find some answers.

The first time I listened to it, I thought I was listening to my father’s voice but couldn’t be sure. The recording was clean, without any extraneous noises, but still, technology distorts the human voice and it didn’t really sound like my dad. This man’s English was excellent and he spoke quickly, but his vowel sounds weren’t quite right, weren’t quite what I remember. His phrases lacked the colloquial idioms you’d hear in a native speaker.

A few minutes in, I was sure this was indeed my father. The recording was made not long after he had moved to England. His first language was (I think) Yiddish, followed by Arabic and Hebrew, English and French. Was my memory playing tricks or was this simply evidence of what my friends had observed in the 1970s – that my dad “had an accent”?

I listened carefully to the rest of the interview. Mostly my father asks de Born about her writing habits, literary preferences and the authors she has met. He wants to know if she keeps notes in a little book, whether her characters are based on people she knows. She answers no, no, no again and again. He seems to be looking for tips on how to be a novelist. He gets nothing.

The conversation is stilted but my father doesn’t seem dissatisfied with the author’s brief answers. Are these the questions of a novice reporter, just learning the tricks of his trade? Or is he working to a personal agenda, trying to glean something useful for himself?

I get a partial answer when de Born speaks of the authors she has met. Evelyn Waugh, she says. And Vladimir Nabokov, whose writing she describes as “divine.” Knowing that Nabokov emigrated to the United States, my father asks, “Did he have an accent?” An odd thing to focus on, one might think, when you’re discussing a world-renowned novelist.

But there’s my answer. I may have grown up oblivious to my father’s accent, but he certainly wasn’t. Like all immigrants, he was aware that it marked him out as different. In a country where one’s identity is defined by the class system, this put him outside regular society. It told others that he was different, and he was just as conscious that, to fit in and be accepted into middle class, professional life in England, one had to be more than educated, more than capable – one had to sound English, to sound as though you belonged. With tanned skin, curly hair and – as he well knew – an abrasive manner, he did his best to tone down the chutzpah and mimic the mannerisms and diction of those around him. But not before he met de Born.

I managed to date the recording to 1960 or 1961 by looking at the publication date of the book de Born is writing when she meets my father. At that time, my father had not seen most of his family for years. Was the conversation a way for him to maintain a connection to his own heritage? Or was he simply looking for professional guidance? De Born could have been the perfect mentor – if only she had agreed. It is clear, however, from her guarded answers that she is not looking to nurture an emerging new talent.

There is, however, a short conversation about her memories of Austria. For the most part, she refuses to discuss her past, but she does talk briefly about her father, a Viennese nobleman. When the emperor Franz Josef died in 1916, her father walked in the funeral procession through the streets of Vienna. She describes her fondness for her father, and speaks warmly of his influence on her life.

Fascinated to learn that there were only two degrees of separation between me and a person who had attended an emperor’s funeral, I decided to look up some of the events she described. I soon found the Pathé News archive. Turns out they have thousands of files online. Here, I found a silent movie of the 1916 procession.

Twenty-six seconds in, I was startled to see something that didn’t fit. In the midst of all the smartly dressed adult aristocrats, prancing black horses and royal footmen, there is a tall, dignified looking man. This man is holding the hand of a little girl. She must be 4 or 5 and she’s holding a teddy bear in her other hand. They turn in front of the camera for a second before they are obscured by the heads of royal guards. She reappears fleetingly, later on, and then she’s gone. Could this be de Born, the woman whose voice I hear in conversation with my father when he was still a young Israeli immigrant?

De Born’s work is not in vogue now but this is – I believe – a tremendous shame. An astute observer of human nature, her dialogue is incisive and the inner lives of her characters richly explored. The world of Viennese aristocrats is opulent but restricted, the women stifled by their positions in society. Even as the characters cling to old traditions, singing of a Habsburg emperor whose fate will be tied to Austria’s for all eternity, de Born’s narrator feels that her world is an anachronism: “No waxwork exhibition could possibly reproduce the atmosphere of a vanished epoch so uncannily as did those creatures who continued to move with old-fashioned grace in their own meaningless world,” she writes.

Soon after, she describes a very different scene, being “in the midst of people who spoke my language, but with whom I could not feel in harmony. ‘Ein Volk, ein Reich, ein Führer …’ chanted, yelled, screamed hysterically.” Little by little, de Born introduces ever more troubling elements, gradually building on a sense of a looming catastrophe – for Austrian nobility, for Europe at large and for Jews in particular. It may be set in polite society, but The House in Vienna is an exquisitely tense and emotional read. It is no wonder my father chose de Born as his interviewee. I have not found her described as a Jewish author, but – to me at least – her photograph on the dust jacket tells me everything I need to know.

As a daughter listening to her father’s voice after his death, the reel of tape is a gift and, like the work of his interviewee, it is a little eerie. It feels like eavesdropping. I don’t know if my father meant me to have it – or even find it – but I loved hearing his chuckle as he talked about something that he cared about, so deeply, as the young man I didn’t know. It’s a great way to remember him and his accent – full of life and Israeli/European inflections – hints at how he must have felt as a newcomer in England, all those years ago.

And, of course, it’s not a particularly smooth interview. At one point, the author laughs, somewhat revealingly, “Now we’re getting somewhere!” in her own gently accented English. Up to that point, my father’s questions have mostly been dead-ends. This question, however, was different, and the pace of the conversation quickens, the tone is light, almost cheeky. Hearing him make a genuine connection with another human being – something I rarely saw myself – was pure gold. It’s an infinitesimally small hunk of gold, but when you lose a complex and extremely guarded parent that you tried throughout your life – and failed – to connect with in this way, it can feel like winning the lottery.

Shula Klinger is an author, illustrator and journalist living in North Vancouver. Find out more at niftyscissors.com.

 

Format ImagePosted on June 10, 2016June 8, 2016Author Shula KlingerCategories LifeTags family, Father’s Day, history, Vienna
The pitfalls of Jewish dating apps

The pitfalls of Jewish dating apps

It’s rare to find a Jew who hasn’t heard of JDate. Responsible for bringing countless members of the community together in matrimony, a whole generation of young people has grown up taking photos for upload to its hallowed webpages. But 20-something Jews, permanently attached to their cellphones as are most millennials, have many other options now for finding “the one.” Aside from actually meeting people face-to-face (G-d forbid), phone apps are being touted as the way forward.

The apps attempt to connect an array of Jewish singletons – if you both “like” each other, then you can chat. The market leaders, more established JSwipe and new kid on the block Jfiix, promise to connect you with “cool, young and mobile Jewish singles.” As someone who fits these criteria (it’s cool to label yourself cool, right?), I’m here to explain why I don’t believe they’ll achieve their aim. Having lived in London, Toronto and Vancouver, I’ll do this with the help of both personal insight and that of various Jewish young professionals in all three cities.

First, there’s the geography aspect – Jewish dating apps all aim to introduce you to other Jews. Thanks smartphones, but that’s not actually a problem we have. Anyone can tell you how Jews (and other ethnic groups) cluster together in most cities. Simply check out the suburb of Thornhill in Toronto or Golders Green in London if you don’t believe me. In Vancouver, with a Jewish community that a good friend comments is “half a block” wide, it’s not difficult to find members of the tribe. We do, after all, have a shared interest in hobbies such as eating and gossiping – where we find out that supposed strangers are often third or fourth cousins.

This closeness is usually a positive: even if you’re unfamiliar with the specific community or country, Jews, in my experience, excel at inclusivity and making newbies feel welcome. But when it comes to dating apps, it leads to a problem that’s twofold. If you do live in a Jewish area, chances are that you’ll already know other Jews from synagogue, Hebrew school, Birthright or friends of friends. In response to my questioning, a friend in London summed up the issue: “Jewish dating apps are great to keep your parents and grandparents happy, but you end up just swiping left to everyone, as you know them or they’re your best friend’s ex.” So, when you live in densely saturated Jewish areas, mobile apps are needless. And, when you don’t, they aren’t helpful either. One Vancouverite I spoke to, who goes to university in Halifax, remarked, “In my limited East Coast experience, there’s no one on Jewish dating apps. Everyone who shows up is from the States.” It’s little surprise that he set up a profile with Tinder, a similar app but one that’s open to all religions.

This leads me to the second problem with Jewish dating apps: the apps themselves. Certainly, critiques can be leveled at any and all such platforms. One Ontario-based law student refuses to download dating apps, full stop, arguing that people’s profiles are so “planned” and “calculated.” True, the information you put about yourself on dating apps is mostly limited to a line-long bio and several photos, and everyone tries to look their most cultured, well-traveled self in photos. Not only does everyone start to look like clone-like serial vacationers, but it means images, not personality, inevitably end up being the deciding factor in choosing dates.

Jewish apps have somewhat tried to sideline this prioritization of looks with “Jewish preference” tools. JSwipe, for instance, lets you select preferred options for being matched up: you can choose between kosher or not, as well as denominations from Orthodox to Reform to “willing to convert.” This is a pretty rudimentary way of sifting through Jewish singles when you compare it with the fact that people used to put some actual thought into matchmaking those who might work well as a couple. A graduate in Toronto lamented that “everyone’s stopped trying to set up other friends with mutual friends because swipe-based dating apps have become the new thing.” The new thing they are, but a new thing that’s being adopted reluctantly.

Why? I attribute this, in part, to an image problem. The apps aren’t appealingly designed and are more than a little cringe-worthy. Unlike other dating apps with more casual connotations (Tinder) or novel niches (Coffee Meets Bagel), Jewish ones are severely lacking the trendy factor. In my experience, this was because they didn’t seem fun or relaxed, and they certainly didn’t seem like they’d lead to the exciting adventure that dating surely should be. In short: they seemed to be full of people who felt like they “had to” find a Jew. And, depressingly enough, it was difficult to distinguish between whether this hint of dutiful desperation could be attributed to themselves, their parents or even their grandparents.

This is why, for many, the apps are a good idea in theory, but less so in practice. The focus on Judaism implies that if two people’s religious beliefs match up, then they’re clearly compatible. This neglects vital questions such as, “Is this person actually nice?” and “Do we have anything in common bar religion?” And I’d go so far as to say that sticking steadfastly to dating Jews means sticking to your comfort zone, as you’ll likely be from a similar background. But what are your 20s for if not to date people from other walks of life? At worst, dating vastly different people can highlight what you don’t want in a relationship. At best, you’ll gain life experience and learn a ton about different cultures. I say this as someone with a dating history that includes Christians and Muslims, but who, at the end of the day, would love to settle down with someone Jewish.

What doesn’t help in this regard is being warned before a first date with a non-Jew, “You can’t marry him” (thanks, Dad). Any young person will tell you that the more a rule is enforced, the more you want to rebel against it. It’s no different when it comes to dating. Ask pretty much any young Jew and they’ll attest to the pressure we feel from family and community to settle down with a Jewish spouse. It’s easy to joke about, but the joke’s on them when the pressure pushes us away. The burden is too much, too soon. But, Dad, and other parents, just because we experiment in our 20s doesn’t mean we don’t want a Jewish household. I’m sure I will have one eventually – well, we can pray, for my dad’s sake. And you know the guy in Halifax who traded a Jewish app for Tinder? He noted, “My bio has Hebrew in it, so I guess there’s a subconscious hope that it’ll attract Jews?”

Parents, have faith that we’ll come around and maybe, just maybe, we’ll do it without having to resort to mildly dire religion-specific dating apps.

Rebecca Shapiro is a freelance journalist, amateur photographer and blogger at thethoughtfultraveller.com. A recent politics graduate, she manages to maintain bases in London, Vancouver and Toronto, while focusing a disproportionate amount of time planning new adventures. She has been published in the Times (U.K.), Huffington Post (U.K.), That’s Shanghai (China) and ELLE Canada.

Format ImagePosted on June 10, 2016June 8, 2016Author Rebecca ShapiroCategories Op-EdTags apps, continuity, dating, JFiix, JSwipe
Scribe 2015/16 launch

Scribe 2015/16 launch

(photos by Cynthia Ramsay)

photo - The Scribe fashion show curated by Ivan Sayers, 1970s outfitphoto - The Scribe fashion show curated by Ivan Sayers, 1940s outfitOn May 15, the Jewish Museum and Archives of British Columbia launched the latest issue of its annual journal, The Scribe. This year’s edition follows the history of Jewish clothiers in the province, so the museum kicked things off with a fashion show curated by local fashion historian, Ivan Sayers, featuring clothing from the 1940s through to the 1970s. Some of the pieces exhibited were made or sold by clothiers included in the journal, which can be purchased for $20 from [email protected] or 604-257-5199. To see more of the fashion show photos, click here.

Format ImagePosted on June 10, 2016June 8, 2016Author Cynthia RamsayCategories LocalTags fashion, history, Ivan Sayers, JMABC, The Scribe
Jerusalem in photographs

Jerusalem in photographs

The Dome of the Rock in the snow, 1940s. (photo by Moshe (Nicolas) Schwartz / Schwartz Collection, Bitmuna)

photo - Watermelons, undated
Watermelons, undated. (photo by Elia Kahvedjian)

Jerusalem is one of the most photographed places in the world. The Camera Man: Women and Men Photograph Jerusalem 1900-1950 exhibition at the Tower of David Museum highlights the unique and complex human and cultural heritage of the city. It also offers, for the first time, a comprehensive look at the photographic work in Jerusalem of Christians, Jews and Muslims between the years 1900 and 1950.

photo - Arab fighters on the walls of the Tower of David
Arab fighters on the walls of the Tower of David. (photo by Chalil Rissas / The Central Zionist Archives)

The 34 photographers chosen to be exhibited in The Camera Man lived and worked in Jerusalem during the first half of the 20th century. The photographers come from all different backgrounds – European, Armenian and local, Jewish, Muslim, Christian, men and women. Many photographers recorded the Jerusalem residents of different communities; some were hired by institutions and organizations to photograph various historical events that occurred in the city and some were artists who sought to honor the unique faces of Jerusalem.

What makes this exhibition different from others is that much of the photography that has been displayed before from this time period looks at the young “strong Zionist,” the developing state of Israel, the rural local villages, the posed “Orient,” the “new Tel Aviv.” This exhibition – which includes many photographs that have never been seen before – examines Jerusalem and its colorful mosaic of people, from everyday life to historic events.

photo - The ice cream seller with his bird, 1940s
The ice cream seller with his bird, 1940s. (photo by Hanna Safieh / Rafi Safieh Collection)

“The juxtaposition of different viewpoints and spheres of activity, placing works by prominent photographers alongside less well-known names, reveals a hitherto untold chapter in the history of photography in the country and in Jerusalem’s own history,” writes exhibit curator Dr. Shimon Lev.

In the mid-19th century, when Europe began to take an interest in the Orient, Jerusalem witnessed an influx of travelers from England, France and, later, from America. At the same time, a new invention was spreading through Europe – the camera – and the newcomers carted their unwieldy photographic equipment with them. The sight of the squalid city was a bitter disappointment to them and clashed with an imagined idea of the Holy City that had prompted their journey to Jerusalem.

The dissonance between the Jerusalem cherished by the heart and the Jerusalem revealed to the eye, between the heavenly and the earthly Jerusalem, and between the ideal and the mundane Jerusalem, still occupies photographers today. Although cameras are now conveniently small and light and exposure times are shorter, today’s photographer still tries to capture his own personal version of Jerusalem, even if it is only a digital self-portrait in front of the Tower of David.

photo - Jordanian soldier at the destruction of the Hurva Synagogue, 1948
Jordanian soldier at the destruction of the Hurva Synagogue, 1948. (photo by Ali Zaarour / Zaarour Family Collection)

In The Camera Man, there are photographs showing action in the streets of Jerusalem from 1948, as well as portraits taken by local photographers who opened up their own photographic stores, most of them along Jaffa Road near Jaffa Gate and the Tower of David. The stores were called photographic houses or photo studios, although the driving spirit between the revival of the Hebrew language, Eliezer Ben-Yehuda (1858–1922), suggested the term ‘“light-painting houses” in Hebrew.

The photographs comprising The Camera Man were collected from private and public archives. The catalogue accompanying the exhibition includes selected photos from the exhibit, several of which are published for the first time, as well as articles by Lev, Dr. Lavi Shai and artist Meir Appelfeld.

The Camera Man is on display until Dec. 10. For more information, visit tod.org.il/en/exhibition/the-photographers.

 

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Format ImagePosted on June 10, 2016June 8, 2016Author Tower of David MuseumCategories Visual ArtsTags history, Israel, Jerusalem, photography
Help your teen drive safely

Help your teen drive safely

New drivers need a lot of practice to gain enough experience and confidence to handle daily driving hazards and unexpected situations. (photo from bcaa.com)

According to research, teens value the opinions of their parents most of all (even if it doesn’t always seem like it). That’s why understanding the risks associated with driving and sharing your knowledge are so important during this process. Understanding the risks and facts will help you set rules, consistently enforce those rules and model responsible driving. Your actions make a significant difference.

The information below has been adapted from the American Automobile Association’s Guide to Teen Driver Safety – Keys2Drive, which provides parents an easy way to work with their teens through each step, from choosing a driver education program to deciding when they can drive on their own. There are three main learning-to-drive stages: before your teen starts driving, driving with supervision and driving on their own.

Before your teen starts driving, parents and teens should talk about using seat belts and set rules and consequences related to seat belt use. Establish a seat belt policy that applies to all situations, including buckling up as a driver or passenger, and having all passengers buckle up. It is important that seat belt use becomes so much a habit that it is automatic.
In crashes, seat belts help keep you and your passengers inside the vehicle where you are the safest. In crashes, seat belts keep you from hitting objects or other passengers inside the vehicle. Even if your car is equipped with airbags, seat belts are still needed to prevent serious injury in crashes. Drivers under age 21 are the least likely to wear seat belts and the most likely to crash.

Supervised driving is actually some of the safest driving your teen will do. By teaching under low-risk conditions and then gradually adding new roads and traffic conditions, you help your teen gain experience. Supervised driving will also help you decide when your teen is ready to drive on their own. Even though your teen might be old enough to get a licence, you decide when your teen is ready. Practise – different weather, traffic conditions and road types – use seat belts and make sure your teen knows that distracted driving can be fatal. According to ICBC, using cellphones and texting while driving is the second leading cause of car crash fatalities in British Columbia (81 per year), behind speeding (94) and just ahead of impaired driving (78).

Driver education and training can help your teen learn the rules of the road and how to drive safely. New drivers need a foundation of knowledge, skills and plans to reduce their risk behind the wheel. Quality driver education can help develop safe driving attitudes, hazard recognition, vehicle positioning and speed adjustment and visual search habits. Using a professional driver education school can be an effective way to provide your teen with the training needed. It can also help build your relationship with your teen. Some very skilled and safety-conscious parents may not have the time or temperament to be the best teacher.

Safe driving requires concentration, knowledge and judgment – much more than just being able to manoeuvre the vehicle. New drivers need a lot of practice to gain enough experience and confidence to handle daily driving hazards and unexpected situations. Teens will show the greatest improvement in the first 1,600 to 8,000 kilometres of driving. However, they will continue to show noticeable improvement for up to 32,000 kilometres.

First, teens need to become familiar with the vehicle, then to practise basic driving skills such as turning, parking and backing up. At first, practise away from traffic in low-speed areas like parking lots and neighborhood streets. In the beginning, always practise in daylight and good weather. Once you are sure your teen understands the basics, practise more complex skills such as changing lanes. As your teen’s skills increase, gradually add more complex and difficult situations such as larger roads, higher speed limits, heavier traffic and night driving. Always set goals prior to each driving lesson.

Only practise when you are both ready, are in good moods and have sufficient time. Practice sessions should be long enough to accomplish the goals, but short enough to avoid fatigue, loss of concentration and frustration. Practise as often as possible so that your teen can accumulate driving skills.

Driving on their own – the AAA has created a template for a parent-teen driving agreement with the goal of reducing the risks. It is comprised of checkpoints. Discuss and assign unsupervised driving privileges for each stage, with the privileges increasing with each checkpoint; for example, initially, your teen can only drive to 9 p.m. with no teen passengers and only in dry weather on neighborhood roads, but, by Checkpoint 4, they have few, if any restrictions. Decide how long each checkpoint’s privileges should remain in effect and, based on the length of time on which you agree, write in the date to review your teen’s progress. Discuss each rule, what might comprise a violation of that rule and the consequences of a violation, including the loss of driving privileges. On the review date, consider moving to the next checkpoint if your teen passes the “quick check”:

• Have enough supervised driving practice?

• Advance in driving skills and judgment?

• Obey traffic laws? (never use alcohol or other drugs and drive, never ride with a person who is driving after using alcohol or other drugs, never ride in a car where any alcohol or drug use is occurring, always wear your seat belt at all times as a driver or passenger, always have every passenger wear a seat belt, do not drive aggressively – e.g., speeding, tailgating or cutting others off)

• Take no unnecessary risks? (no playing around with passengers, messing around with the radio, talking on a cellphone, etc.; do not drive when overly tired, angry or upset; do not put yourself or others at increased risk by making unnecessary trips in adverse weather)

• “Check in” with parent before each driving event? (examples include a teen telling their parent where they are going, who their passengers will be, calling if they are going to be more than 30 minutes late or if their plans change, and calling if they cannot get home safely because of weather conditions, alcohol use or other reasons so a parent can arrange a safe ride)

• Rarely lose driving privileges?

If your teen’s progress is not satisfactory, set another review date for the current checkpoint. If your teen’s progress is satisfactory, move to the next checkpoint and decide on a review date. Continue until you have completed all the checkpoints.
Distracted drivers are dangerous drivers, and teenage drivers are more easily distracted than older drivers. Also, because of their inexperience, they don’t react as well when they suddenly perceive a danger. Every day, car crashes end more teen lives than cancer, homicide and suicide combined, and many of these teens are killed as passengers of other teen drivers. Based on kilometres driven, teens are involved in three times as many fatal crashes as all other drivers.

As a parent, you can help reduce the risks to your teen. You can set clear expectations and rules about safe driving and minimizing distractions – and you can model safe and respectful driving, including making family rules by which everyone abides.

Format ImagePosted on June 10, 2016June 8, 2016Author BCAA.COMCategories LifeTags AAA, automotive, BCAA, safe driving, teenagers

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