{"id":36430,"date":"2021-03-05T12:58:29","date_gmt":"2021-03-05T20:58:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.jewishindependent.ca\/?p=36430"},"modified":"2021-03-04T22:26:12","modified_gmt":"2021-03-05T06:26:12","slug":"more-bless-same-sex-unions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.jewishindependent.ca\/index.php\/2021\/03\/05\/more-bless-same-sex-unions\/","title":{"rendered":"More bless same-sex unions"},"content":{"rendered":"

Rabbi Steven Wernick\u00a0<\/strong>(photo from cjnews.com<\/a>)<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Toronto\u2019s Beth Tzedec Congregation, one of the largest Conservative synagogues in Canada, announced last month that its rabbis will officiate at same-sex marriages.<\/p>\n

While Beth Tzedec is not the first Conservative synagogue in Canada to sanctify same-sex weddings \u2013 Beth David and Beth Tikvah, also in Toronto, have already done so \u2013 the development has generated a surprising amount of interest, said synagogue president Debbie Rothstein.<\/p>\n

Reaction from synagogue members has been \u201coverwhelmingly positive,\u201d she told The CJN<\/em> soon after the announcement was made. \u201cI\u2019ve received a couple of concerns; we know change is hard. It\u2019s not even been 24 hours, but (reactions) have been unbelievably positive and supportive.\u201d<\/p>\n

In fact, Rothstein said she had heard from members who were surprised this was not already a policy at the synagogue. \u201cPeople were ready for this change to be made,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

The decision is the culmination of decades of study by the Conservative movement and the synagogue, said Beth Tzedec\u2019s senior rabbi, Steven Wernick.<\/p>\n

In 2006, the Conservative movement passed a number of resolutions welcoming LGBTQ Jews into the community, and lifted a ban on ordaining gays and lesbians, based on the principle of kavod habriut<\/em>, honouring all God\u2019s creations, Wernick said. \u201cHalachah is a living, evolving process of living a meaningful Jewish life. In 2021, to be fully welcoming of the LGBTQ community, to be willing to welcome and officiate at same-sex weddings, is a moral imperative,\u201d he said in an interview.<\/p>\n

In 2012, the Conservative movement\u2019s committee on Jewish law and standards approved two model wedding ceremonies, as well as guidelines for a same-sex divorce. Rabbis can adapt the marriage ceremonies for the couples.<\/p>\n

In 2017, as part of its strategic planning process, Beth Tzedec formed a task force for LGBTQ inclusion. It has participated in Pride Shabbat, Pride Month and other programs.<\/p>\n

Beth Tzedec now has gender-neutral bathrooms, and has worked with Keshet, an international organization that advocates for LGBTQ equality in Jewish life, to examine its policies and the language it uses.<\/p>\n

Officiating at same-sex weddings is the culmination of the task force\u2019s work, Wernick said. \u201cOne of the things that we heard loud and clear is that you can\u2019t claim to be fully welcoming until you\u2019re doing same-sex weddings,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n

The same-sex weddings will differ slightly, and will be called brit ahavim<\/em> \u2013 a covenant of love \u2013 rather than the traditional term, kiddushin<\/em> (betrothal).<\/p>\n

Even in a double-ring ceremony, kiddushin is not an egalitarian framework, and so the Conservative movement has developed other \u201ccovenantal ceremonies\u201d that are more appropriate to same-sex weddings, Wernick said.<\/p>\n

But there will still be all the trappings of a traditional wedding: a chuppah<\/em> (canopy), a ketubah<\/em> (marriage contract), wine, blessings and the breaking of a glass. \u201cIt\u2019s going to be a holy and wholly Jewish ceremony, in both senses of the word,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n

Same-sex weddings will only be offered to couples who are both Jewish, Wernick said, pointing out this was not a decision about interfaith marriages.<\/p>\n

Since the recent announcement was made, the rabbi said he has received several emails from families who are personally affected. Some shared that they were not able to get married in the synagogue, as they might have wished. The parent of a transgender child expressed to the rabbi how \u201cmeaningful it was that his child now had a place at Beth Tzedec where he can be validated and loved as a child of God.\u201d<\/p>\n

While Beth Tzedec is not, as mentioned, the first Conservative synagogue to bless same-sex marriages, Wernick said he expects it will also not be the last. \u201cBeth Tzedec has traditionally been considered one of the leading congregations both in Canada and around the world. I would imagine we will be influencing other congregations to do the same.\u201d<\/p>\n

In early 2012, Congegation Shaarey Zedek in Winnipeg became what was believed to be the first Conservative shul in Canada to host a same-sex marriage.<\/p>\n

For years at Toronto\u2019s Beth Sholom Synagogue, \u201cour stated position, once egalitarianism was adopted, is to do weddings without concern for gender,\u201d said the congregation\u2019s Rabbi Aaron Flanzraich, adding \u2013 likely echoing the policy at other Conservative synagogues \u2013 \u201cprovided both persons were Jewish.\u201d<\/p>\n

The Ontario region of the Rabbinical Assembly, the international association of Conservative rabbis, which Flanzraich chairs, is populated by autonomous congregations, and \u201ceach makes their policies in accordance with the wishes and traditions of their respective communities.\u201d<\/p>\n

Justine Apple, who was executive director of Kulanu Toronto, a now-defunct group for LGBTQ Jews, called Beth Tzedec\u2019s decision \u201ca very important step.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cThe Conservative movement is finally stepping up and opening its doors to the legitimacy of same-sex marriage,\u201d said Apple. \u201cSomething many of our LGBTQ members and their families have been waiting for, for a long time.\u201d<\/p>\n

This article originally was published on facebook.com\/TheCJN<\/a>, and includes reporting by Ron Csillag. For local perspectives on this topic, in the context of transgender rights, see jewishindependent.ca\/affirming-transgender-rights<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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